This girl wrote a really infuriating blog (http://imlmfaooverhere.com/2011/01/20/women-are-losing-by-theequiet_storm/) and this was my response
Ok so thinking about this blog has been pissing me off for the past few days...not just because it has it's moments of being fallacious and contradictory
1. Women too often don't give credit where credit is due. We too often discredit ourselves and other women for the sake of appealing more to men. We too often complain about other "females"
a. first off I hate the term "females" these days for many reasons but most relevantly to this conversation is that the term is ambiguous but has come to describe young usually trife individuals. This is problematic because "females" is all encompassing -therefore attacking the whole gender which isn't fair because as theequiet_storm pointed out there are still good women out there. Furthermore, young women make a whole lot of mistakes. I'm only 21 BUT when I look at my behavior from when I was 16 I go DAMN I WAS STUPID...A lot of this behavior or these traits are descriptive of young immature don't know shit women.........That's what growth is for. Don't attack the whole gender
b. having said all that a lot of women grow into beautiful giving selfless women. I mean not all. There are trife ass 35 y/o women still sleeping with married men. But to say that is to also have the recognize that TRIFE ASS MARRIED MEN DO THE DO WITH THEM. Don't just blame women.
2. You have to recognize the economic and social factors that go into creating these women. By default, one of the most basic human necessities is love (and attention) we therefore go seek that out. There are so many of us who are willing to do that by any means. As most of these "Females" are a discussion of black women, I'd say that as we indulge in hip hop culture and see what women get attention and what they look and dress like we imitate that for attention
a.there are 84 black men for every 100 black women so yes theequiet_Storm u are correct but to realize that is to also recognize that this what creates this competition in black communities...and also rampant infidelity, and a surplus of unmarried baby mamas. (there's too many black women who can say that they're mothers but can't say that they're wives -Common) less than 50% of us ever get married.
3. Don't call the female gender weak. Since the beginning of time we have carried generations all by our lonesome. Too many of us have raised our own children without men out of necessity. There are countless amazing women in history that without their strength and resilence the world could not exist. For too long I neglected or denied myself the pride of calling myself a woman because I thought that my gender was weak. But we are incredible beings. Wonderful individuals. If you know that you yourself, mother, and grandmother have done incredible things........how could you deny that to other women?
a. women are not simpleminded......On average our IQ tends to be higher than men. Studies have shown that we are better leaders. I'm not making this shit up. Furthermore, women are not the only people that covet. Men DO AS WELL. They covet just as men. I HATE when people try to make these vast differences out of men and women. WE ARE MADE UP OF THE SAME SHIT. We have hormonal differences that's it. Even our reproductive tissue is anologous and homologus.
4. And finally the women are hoes....ok first, do not criticize women for being as sexual as their male counterparts. Why can't we love sex as much as they Having said that.....I think that women and men should be choosy with whome they choose get down to the nitty gritty with. There are way too many diseases. And while I am not for prostitution........shit get it how you live it. I'm not gonna knock one person's hustle...it is what it is. In addition please recognize that the Porn industry is a multibillion dollar industry organized by men (and women) but men in vast majority. Women partake in often because that's where fame and money is. finally men are just as much as "hoes" as women
In conclusion, Don't get me wrong I think some of things you noted have some validity but I have a problem with generalizations. I have a problem with folks who don't recognize factors that creat poor conditions. I have a problem with logical fallacies and contradictions. While I know I praised women an awful lot, yes, I know, we have our issues, but men have just the same, or as many. We aren't that different. In the end, I mean I still love men......especially black men (yes lawd) I also have a problem with rants without solutions. I propose we stop taking part in a culture that worships looseness but also criticizes women who do so...I.E. hip hop culture....think Kat Stacks....rapper rap about sleeping with whores all day but will straight treat the shit outta Kat Stacks. I propose we love ALL our men and not just the glorified "hood stars" I propose we stop talking about "females" and instead teach them how to be better women, with higher self esteem. I also propose we stop all this gangbanging ish to stop killing off all of our men!
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